As human beings we often measure our success by material possessions, relationships, or our reputation. If we're not careful we can stake so much importance on these areas that we lose sight of who we really are--a great and powerful infinite being.
We begin to allow our self-worth, the definition of self, to become contingent upon external factors. By doing so, we're missing out on the real key to both happiness and abundance. See our happiness depends on one thing--us. It is up to us to choose this state of existence for ourselves; it is not hinged upon this or that, or until, as if some fabricated future holds the secret. No, our happiness and abundance depends on detachment.
To detach ourselves, this simply means that we allow energy to flow naturally and freely. We don't fight what is, we don't try to change things outside of our control. Detachment means that while may enjoy nice things, our world wouldn't crash to end if they were taken away from us. We can become attached to stuff, other people and their opinions, to the past, to form, to ideas and being right, to money, and to winning.
When it comes to materialistic things, if we are detached, we realize that they will be ours for a time and then pass on to the next person to enjoy. We realize that everything we are given is here for a limited time.
Wayne W. Dyer put it simply in his book, You'll See It When You Believe It, said:
"If you wonder about the difference between attachment and enjoyment, ask yourself how you would react if suddenly an object you value was gone--stolen, broken, lost, or whatever. Would you be distorted with anger and worry? Would you become immobilized and unable to function effectively with yourself and your loved ones? This is attachment."
Being detached in our relationships, we value the differences that exist between us and the other person. We don't try to change, or possess, them.
It's also possible that we may allow other people, and their opinions of us, to shape who we are and influence the choices we make. We might hold back from living our true purpose if we allow ourselves to become attached to their mindset. For example, if you're in the arts, and addicted (attached) to feedback, you might become discouraged by negative or hurtful comments. This serves no purpose other than to interrupt the energy flow. Living in a state of detachment is much the same as surrender. We let the external wash over of us. We don't soak it in.
By focusing on being ourselves, we let the energy flow, and the more freely it does, we will not only experience more happiness, but we will attract abundance.
CAROLYN ARNOLD is the author of several published novels, including her best-selling Madison Knight series. Her love for writing dates back to her teen years, but it was only in recent years that she was reunited with this love to pursue it with career passion.
For an in-depth discussion on this topic, I recommend Wayne W. Dyer's book, You'll See It When You Believe It.
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