I think we would all agree that our imagination is a pretty cool thing! We can escape into the world of make believe and create stories, poems, music, art and more. When we tap into our creative side, we enter a space of endless possibilities. Often, as adults, we move away from using our creative imagination for outward expressions in art form, unless it is a priority for us.
Nevertheless, everyday we use our imagination about the people and experiences in our lives. We see someone on the street and we make up a story in our minds. Someone does or says something to us and we make up the rest of the story. When a conflict or poor communication occurs, we may become upset and feel hurt. If we observe our thinking, we will notice that often our imagination can spiral in a negative direction, one that is fed by our fears. We replay the story and expand on it and before we know it we have lots of stress and anxiety, left wondering why. Usually the rest of the story has not and is not what is really happening, it is totally imagined. Later we find out the worry, frustration and stress was unwarranted because our story was not even true.
This can happen to us over and over again until we consciously observe and recognize that we are doing this to ourselves. We are robbing ourselves of energy units we could have been using for more productive and enjoyable activities. We did this to ourselves and in fact used our imagination to focus on worsening the conflict, when open communication with the other party may have cleared the air immediately.
Why do we do that? Why do we assume we know where the other person is coming from or what they expect of us without having a face to face conversation? Worse yet, we may talk to everyone else but the party involved, to get their take on our conflict. In this case, not only ourselves but others are affected by the negative energy we share by repeating and elaborating on our story.
So rather than using our imagination for the worse, why not use it for the better? Why not imagine that there is a misunderstanding, the other person didn’t mean to hurt us, that they didn’t even realize what they did was hurtful in some way? Imagine talking to them and expressing how we feel, that everything will be worked out smoothly, with better understanding and a strengthening of our relationship.
Wouldn’t this help us to consciously learn and grow from our experiences? Wouldn’t this be a positive response to the event, so that a more desirable outcome is reached? When using our imagination, we can enter a space of positive or negative possibilities, for better or worse. The choice is always ours.
SHERRY BUIKEMA began learning about energy healing ways and developed a dream. It was a dream of a beautiful place in nature, where friends gather for meditation and self-healing. In 2012, with the help of her very supportive husband, One Place To Be was born. October 2013 saw the first day retreat, with regular retreats going forward. In line with this dream, Sherry has completed her Reiki Masters and Reconnective Healing® training and is assisting others to reconnect with the fullness of their beings on all levels.