We’ve all heard it said many times—successful people have a network to support them. Do you believe that? It’s quite possible your ego responds with “I don’t need anyone.” But the truth is we all need help from others at times. There’s no way around this. In fact, for us to grow as individuals, it is necessary that we open up to other people.
There could be many reasons why we don’t let other people assist us, but I will discuss two--ego and vulnerability.
If it's a matter of ego, we feel that we can figure everything out on our own. Even if you’ve never done anything before, it’s all right, you have it covered. You don’t need anyone. After all, you’re a powerful being and there shouldn’t be a need for other people—right? Wrong. Dead wrong.
Another thing that could be preventing us from seeking advice could be our vulnerability. It may still be entrenched in us that by asking for help, we are in some way exposing a weakness. In addition, we could feel that if we asked and were told no, we’d take it personally and be hurt by it. In this case, remember there is no such thing as rejection. Maybe you’re thinking yeah right but it’s true. If you ask someone for something and they say no, are you any further behind? You’re in the same spot—not better, but not worse either.
I’ve found on my personal journey that as I’ve come to fully accept who I am, I no longer fear asking for help. I welcome more people into my life than ever before. As a result, I’m a happier and more fulfilled person. Due to opening up, inspired thoughts have come to fruition that I alone never would have been able to accomplish as I didn’t have the personal know how. My Book of the Month Club is a good example of this.
CAROLYN ARNOLD is the author of several published novels, including her best-selling Madison Knight series. Her love for writing dates back to her teen years, but it was only in recent years that she was reunited with this love to pursue it with career passion.