What is unconditional love? It is love for self and others without condition. This means I love myself even when I do or say something thoughtless, inconsiderate, or even hurtful to others.
Sometimes when I am with others, I say things that I realize were pretty dumb, thoughtless and maybe insensitive later. I might even go around for a day or more beating myself up for being so… fill in the blank. The negative self-talk of my ego continues to undermine any good I did that day or ever did for that matter.
What if I recognize the ego is only protecting its programmed identity of never being good enough? It is hard not to go here. After all, parents, religious teachers and others may have taught me that I am only loveable when I meet certain requirements they set out. Surely, if other relationships I have experienced demonstrate conditional love, who do I think I am to extend unconditional love to myself and others?
How does this internal dialogue make me feel? Disheartened and disempowered for sure! What if I become the observer of this dialogue? What if I recognize the story as just that, a story? Of course this doesn’t mean an apology is not called for in moments of thoughtless comments or actions. If it was unintentional, my friends will know and not give it another thought.
What if I recognize my self judgments are not the truth about who I am? What if this was the truth?
You are goodness and mercy and compassion and understanding.
You are peace and joy and light.You are forgiveness and patience, strength and courage, a helper in time of need, a comforter in time of sorrow, a healer in time of injury, a teacher in times of confusion.You are the deepest wisdom and the highest truth; the greatest peace and the grandest love. You are these things!And in moments of your life you have known yourself as these things.Choose now to know yourself as these things always!*
Now that makes me feel empowered and ready to shine again!
~ Sherry Buikema
Neale Donald Walsch, Conversations with God, Book I Pg. 86